The season of celebrations is here, and traveling to visit family and friends can be part of the joy of the holidays. It can also be challenging for those with disabilities and special needs. With a bit of advance planning, though, families can smooth the path to holiday cheer.

For those on the autism spectrum, a heads up can help. “Before you travel, you should let your child know about any changes in routine that may be coming and remember to repeat the conversation several times,” says autism intervention expert Carl Sheperis, Ph.D., dean of the College of Education and Human Development at Texas A&M University San Antonio. Help your child understand what to expect with social stories and other tools. If you’ll be staying at a hotel, for example, “you might want to show your child pictures of the hotel, the rooms and amenities like the pool from the hotel website,” Sheperis says. Also plan for changes in daily meals – especially if your child has food-related sensitivities or food allergies.

A little practice can even help with the trip itself. “If time and schedule permit, visit the airport or the train station a week or even a few days before you travel and help familiarize your child with the surroundings there,” says Kimberly Sloman, Ph.D., director of autism services at the Scott Center for Autism Treatment at Florida Institute of Technology. “Also, find and share a YouTube video with your child, especially the point-of-view videos that can help them better understand what to expect.”

For families with disabilities and special needs who are planning to fly, experts from Miracle Flights, a medical flight charity providing free plane tickets to ensure access to medical care, offer up “best booking practices.” Flight director Rebecca Boyce says that direct flights are best, and that if a layover is avoidable it is best to allow at least an hour between flights. Let the airline know as soon as you book your flight if you are traveling with a special need, medical condition, special equipment or a service animal. They can make accommodations for:

  • Food allergies: Airlines will allow you to pre-board so you can wipe down your seats and tray tables.
  • Wheelchairs: If your chair is motorized, they airline will need to know the chair’s dimensions, what kind of batteries it uses (wet or dry cell) and how many.
  • Portable oxygen: The airline will want the brand name of your portable oxygen, rate of flow and how it’s administered. Plan to bring a doctor’s note with you when you board.
  • Service animals: You don’t need to buy a second seat for your service animal, but airlines do require documentation to confirm training, shots and medical necessity.
  • Feeding pumps, monitors and other medical equipment: Have an official doctor’s note handy as a safeguard. “Even if your condition doesn’t impede your ability to fly, emergencies can happen,” says Boyce. “It’s important that anyone providing medical assistance knows your condition.”

During the holidays, especially during the peak daytime hours, arrive at the airport at least three hours early to allow an extra cushion of time to get to your gate. “A better choice, if you can do it, is to travel at off-peak hours—after 6 p.m. or on a red eye—to avoid crowds and save money,” says Boyce.

When you head through security, tell TSA agents about surgical implants, or any objects in your carry-on luggage (liquid medicines, needles) that might cause your bag to be flagged. “I always say, ‘This is a medical bag,’” says Dona Krystosek, whose son has received 25 Miracle Flights for medical treatment. “This way, the agents know to set the bag aside to be hand-checked.” For assistance at security checkpoints from TSA Cares, call 855-787-2227 at least 72 hours before your flight.

To make boarding easier, consider asking for priority boarding, which lets you board before the crowd, giving you extra time to get to your seat and get situated. For children on the autism spectrum, however, you might want to consider boarding last, “which means less time sitting and waiting on the plane,” says Sloman. “Parents know their child and most will feel that one of these options is right for them,” she says, “and airline personnel will help you if you talk with them.”

Finally, Krystosek reminds families traveling with special needs to ask for help if they need it. “Seriously!” she says. “Your fellow travelers want to help if they can. You just need to ask.”

As much as you enjoyed traveling before, it can seem like a daunting new world when preparing for an adventure with your kids. We’ve collected the top 20 tips for traveling with children, so your next vacation can be as breezy as the Bahamas.

 

  • Take your time. Nothing will stress you and your children out more than having to rush through security to make your plane on time. Don’t be afraid to wake up a little earlier or stay out a little later and avoid all the hubbub of the crowds.  Your sanity will thank you.
  • Pack together. Although it may take a bit more time, letting your kids have a hand in the process will make them even more excited for the trip. Also, it’ll help make sure you’re packing the necessities and avoid any meltdowns for forgetting their favorite blanket.
  • Choose toys and snacks wisely. Legos might be their favorite toy, but all those teeny tiny pieces will be a pain to pick up. As much as you love those healthy granola bars, the seemingly endless crumbs will be much less of a hit. Aim for toys and snacks that won’t require much clean up and will be easy to move on a moments notice.
  • Pack on extra outfit (or three). No matter how hard you try, kids will always find a way to stain, rip, or otherwise dirty their clothes. Rather than having to find a way to translate “laundromat” on your travels,  avoid the extra stress and pack a few extra emergency outfits.
  • Roll, don’t fold. By rolling your clothes when you pack, you’re saving space and avoiding wrinkles. When you’re rolling, you’re compressing the clothing, leaving more space in your suitcase for other essentials like shoes and books. It will also save you some time later on when you don’t need to iron your family’s outfits for that fancy dinner.
  • Let your kids help you plan. You may have a perfect itinerary for your dream vacation, but it will help put your kids at ease if they had some input too. Vacations and change can be overwhelming for children, so letting them pick out at least one activity will give them something to really look forward to.
  • Don’t forget the little things. Once you’ve packed everything you need for your trip, go back and try to think of any little things you might need on a daily basis. Tylenol? Check. Baby wipes? Not just for babies anymore. Ziploc bags? You know it.
  • Backpack of goodies. Give your children a little responsibility and pack them their own backpack filled with age-appropriate toys and snacks to keep them busy. It will help take a load off you, and give the kids a sense of pride for being responsible for their items.

    Photo credit: Gretchen Heidemann Whitt

     

  • Bring an extra map. Whether you’re traveling by plane, train, or car; the long journeys can be tough. Give your little ones something to do by bringing an extra copy of your route and some crayons and let them follow along. It will keep the “are we there yet?” to a minimum, and the crayons will give them a safe (and clean) creative outlet.
  • Two words: Magnetic. Puzzles. This one takes a little planning, but can be a lifesaver on long car or plane rides. Either buy a magnetic puzzle, or glue some cheap magnets on a favorite you have at home, and bring along a cookie tray or dry erase board on your trip. It will keep your kid’s hands busy, and you won’t have to worry about losing any pieces.
  • Board the plane separately. Have one parent board first, taking most of the luggage on with them. Once they are all settled and have the seats saved, have the other parent board with the kids. This will save you some stress and give you more time to let them get out all their energy before the flight.
  • Have lollipops handy. We all the know the gum or yawning trick for popping your ears on a flight, but did you know lollipops can have the same effect? Coerce your kids into behaving and save them from any pressure induced headaches with this sweet treat.
  • Stick to your routine as much as possible, but don’t be afraid to bend the rules. Your routine may be the only thing keeping you sane at times, but going on vacation can be a whole other ballgame. At home you may forbid electronics at dinner time, but having your tablet charged and ready for the five-course meal at a fancy restaurant might keep your youngest from throwing escargot at his sister. Be prepared, and be flexible.
  • Schedule some decompression time every night. With all the hustle and bustle of traveling, it’s a good idea to have a set amount of time reserved for kid’s relaxation. Whether it be reading a book, playing a board game or simply watching an episode of their favorite show, make sure you have at least 15 minutes to an 1 hour of downtime in your schedule.
  • Make sleep a priority. It can be very tempting to want to skip nap time for all the fun adventures you have planned, but you may regret it when the inevitable sleepy meltdowns come knocking. Know your child’s schedule, and come up with codewords between adults for when its time to take them back to the room for a little bit.

Photo credit: Gretchen Heidemann Whitt

  • Continental breakfasts are your new best friend. If scheduling allows, try to find a hotel that serves complimentary continental breakfasts. It will help take some stress out of your day, and you can always take some muffins for snack time later.
  • For every adult activity, plan a kid-friendly one too. Even though that third wine tasting sounds like a lot of fun, your kids may get restless and cranky if there’s not enough activities designed for their enjoyment. For every late night luau, plan a coloring contest or arcade day.
  • Take plenty of pictures, but enjoy the moment.  We’re all after the perfect Instagram photo, but nothing kills the fun like an impromptu photoshoot with a demanding director. Take enough pictures for scrapbook memories, but remember to sit back and soak it all in too.
  • Stay calm. Vacations can be stressful, but remember you are there to have fun! Take things with a grain of salt (and maybe a margarita), and remember you’re there to make lasting connections and memories with your family. Your calm attitude will help your kids have a better time too.
  • No matter what you do, not everyone will be happy all the time. Even if you do everything on this list and more, chances are someone will be unhappy at some point during your trip. Roll with the punches, try to get to the root of the problem, and most importantly – don’t take it personally.

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